Falconer, Erin. How to Get Sh*t Done. New York, NY: Gallery Books, 2018. 58-59.
Name a time when you haven’t acted n something because you were afraid of what people would think.
Going to the gym or being active in gym class during school
How did you feel giving up on that idea?
Nonconformist, but stuck. How can I lose weight if I don’t exercise?
Name a time when you did act on something, regardless of (or in the face of) scrutiny. How did it turn out? How did you feel accomplishing it?
Drag show in college. Akosua and I won first place for our take on “Dick in a Box,” despite the sorority being 100% against it. We felt awesome. I felt awesome, not judged, but helpful to a cause and I enjoyed the shit out of being on stage entertaining the crowd. We were asked to return the following year, and I even emceed the whole show! (I could’ve done better my first emcee gig, could’ve prepared better, but the crowd was still laughing at my off-the cuff silliness)
Whose judgement do you look to most often?
For advice: Mom, Julie, E, Allison, Akosua (friends and family whom I respect)
For judgement: strangers, unfortunately
Name a time when you had to make a big presentation or big announcement and you thoughts were more firmly on how you looked or what people would think, instead of focused on the actual presentation.
Literally all of my middle school and high school.
My first standup as I took over a team.
What did that do to your confidence?
I thought, “phew, it’s over. The next one will be better.” For the most part, it was something to hurry up and get over with. Now that they’ve seen me, they can silently judge me all day, that’s fine. I’m not going anywhere and I don’t change much day to day. Of course, as the thing is actually happening, I’m more focused on not shaking and using quick puns to distract the crowd from the fact no one’s actually paying attention to my words.
Retrospectively, I saw each one as a situation to conquer. I don’t have an issue with public speaking, this is an oddly natural thing for me (maybe I crave the spotlight?). I view each instance to be at the center of attention as an opportunity to get better. If anything, continuing to hold a microphone only increased my confidence (maybe not the first time or the first couple of lines, but it got super comfortable after a while).
Are you able to remain calm, focused, and objective when difficult situations arise at work or at home?
I think I do a good job of this most days. I stick to our policies, keep my snappier comments to myself mostly, but have difficulty keeping focused when other impose their priorities on my constantly.
In these situation, does your mind race to find fault with yourself?
If I don’t stay calm, it’s usually my fault and I will return to readdress a situation once I’ve calmed down. Whenever I’m unfocused, I do blame myself. Why can’t I manage my time better? Set better priorities? Explain expectations in such a way that people will execute correctly the first time?
After analyzing your answers to these questions, write down three of your strongest traits.
Then write down three of your most original traits (these may cross over with the above).